The Path to Realization

In 1978, my husband Robert was called for an interview along with twelve Western men. It is customary that when one spouse is called for an interview by Swami, the other is also allowed. On this occasion, however, at the last moment before entering the interview room, Swami, perhaps wanting to spare the wives the emotional ordeal that was to come, sent the ladies back.

In the interview room, Swami directed His attention to a young, nineteen-year-old Westerner whose face showed severe agitation and restraint of tears. The young man cried out, “How do I get Self-realization? If I can’t get it, I’m going to kill myself!”

Swami materialized a crystal japamala (necklace of prayer beads). Before He offered it to anyone, though, the man cried out in anguish, “I don’t want rings. I don’t want japamalas. All I want is liberation. If you don’t give it to me now, I’m going to cut my wrists right here!” Rarely does one witness such an emotional outburst in Swami’s presence. As a rule, people are restrained and self-controlled, as Swami’s presence commands the utmost respect. Swami undoubtedly had His reasons to allow such an outburst, and perhaps Swami’s lengthy reply will benefit others in a similar rush for realization. Swami calmly responded:

“Realization is not an article that you can purchase in a store. The desire for liberation is good, but the display of emotions is not correct. Self-realization is the result of steady and continuous sadhana. The desire for immediate realization is brought on by the urges of the lower self, anxiety, and haste. Haste is emotionalism. Haste makes waste. Start early, go slowly, and arrive safely. Make your desire for divine union permanent, constant, and all-important, and I will give. I love all of you. Know that what I give is best for you. There is no selfish interest in Swami.” 

 – Ms. Diana Baskin, USA